世风日下人人自保系列一Personal safety series #3

(A)       强奸犯所选择的受害者类型：

 1 发型

他们对有马尾辫，绑辫子及一些方便他们抓着的发型的女性下手。短发的妇女比较不会是他们的目标。

2 衣着

他们将寻找那些衣着比较容易迅速除去的女性，并且身上会携带一把剪刀，以帮助剪开衣物。

3  醒觉

他们将会对那些使用手机或在背包寻找钱包的女性下手，因为她们当时缺乏警惕，比较容易成为受害者。

4  地点

他们常在的地点多数于购物广场的停车场，后巷及公共厕所。他们制服了受害者后，将会把他们载到别的地方再干案。

5  手上携带物

若女性手里拿着雨伞或附近有硬物可以被拿起来做反抗的话，他们就不会视她们为猎物。         

 

(B)       此外， 以下是从其他网站所获取的其他温馨提醒:

如何防止成为强奸犯的目标

1.         不要轻易接受陌生人或新朋友的邀約。對于陌生人或新朋友送上的食物和饮料需保持警惕，因它可能含有毒品、麻醉藥或春藥。

2.         如果乘搭公共交通工具，避免乘搭少人或無人的公共交通工具，尽量选择与女性乘客同坐。

3.         在人多的時候乘搭升降机，避免单独進入升降機。

4.         把車停在明亮的地方，在泊车场取車時保持警惕，確保已將車匙準備好。如果觉得不安全，要求保安員陪同前往取車。

5.         建议随身携带合法的喷雾剂和辣椒粉在你的手提包。

6.         如果独自在家里的时候，不要让陌生人到你家。如果它是一个技术人员，请他们出示身份证和职员编号。若还有怀疑，可致电到有关单位询问。

7.         向强暴者说你有怀孕，攻击者可能会有同情心并停止对你下手。

8.         避免在夜间出门。如果您是独自在晚上出门，请确保你走的街道有路灯，许多人群，及至少有一位友人或家人陪同。在你的手携带您的手机，时常要确认有足够的电源及准备拨打的电话。

9.         如果您被拐进在行驶中的车辆，不要害怕,尽量想办法从车跳出来。虽然你会手臂骨折但是你能保住你的安全。

 

 

贞操是女性最重要的陪嫁。请自我保护及爱护你的身体，不要让自己成为下一个目标。

 

摘自:

http://www.rmp.gov.my/rmpnew/rmp/menarikhtml/tipscegah

http://isterisayang.com/blog/2011/09/08/lin-bc-ni-cara-mencegah-rogol/

(A)  Review on what rapist look for a potential victim through a rapist's eyes

 

1) Hairstyle

They are most likely to go after a woman with a ponytail, braid or other hairstyle that can easily be grabbed. They are also likely to go after a woman with long hair. Women with short hair are not common targets.

 

2) Clothing

They will look for women whose clothing are easy to remove quickly. Many of them carry scissors around to cut clothing.

 

3) Awareness

They also look for women who are using their cell phones, searching through their purses or doing other things while walking because they are off guard and can be easily overpowered.

4) Location

The number one place women are abducted from / attacked at is shopping centers’ parking lots, back street and public restrooms.

 

5) Things on hand

They would not pick on women who have umbrellas, or other similar objects that can be used from a distance, in their hands.

Please protect yourselves. Do not let yourself be the next target.

 

(B)  Besides, here are some other rape prevention methods adopted from other websites:

 

 WAYS TO PREVENT RAPE

1.      Do not simply accept the invitations of strangers or new friends. Be cautious or reject the offer of food and beverage from strangers or new friends, because it may contain drugs, narcotics or aphrodisiacs.

2.      If you travel by public transport, avoid boarding on public transport with few or no passengers. Try to sit beside female passengers.

3.      Take the lift which has many people, avoid taking the lift alone.

4.      Always park your car in a bright place. Make sure your car key is in your hand before heading to your car.

5.      Keep legal and advised types of sprays, pepper and chilli powder in your bag.

6.      When at home, play it safe by never letting strangers into your home. If it is a handyman, tell him you need to see a PHOTO ID and his truck. If you don't trust him,do not let him in. If he does not look you in the eyes, has a PHOTO ID, drives a truck with the company name on it, or wears a uniform, then it is suspicious. Do not let him into your home! Call the company while he waits outside.

7.      Tell your attacker you are pregnant. There is a possibility the attacker may feel sympathy or remorse and may stop the rape.

8.      Avoid going out at night. If you happen to be out at night, make sure it is a well-lit, crowded, main street and you are with at least one other person. Carry your cell phone in your hand and ready to make a call.

9.      If you are in a moving vehicle, do not be afraid to jump out. A broken arm is better than your life.

Source   :

http://www.rmp.gov.my/rmpnew/rmp/menarikhtml/tipscegah

http://isterisayang.com/blog/2011/09/08/lin-bc-ni-cara-mencegah-rogol/

 

 

 

 

世风日下人人自保系列一Personal safety series #2

误解vs事实

Women's Centre for Change （WCC）表示, 社会对于强奸这个词有很多错误的观念。这些一般都倾向于以尽量减少问题的严重性，为社会提供一个虚假的安全感，鼓励受害者的指责，并原谅了肇事者。现有的这些看法让肇事者逃脱犯罪，同时也阻止受害者报案或寻求帮助。为了消除错误的观念，使受害者可以寻求帮助，他们需要大家尊重和尊严的对待。

以下是Women's Centre for Change （WCC）以及 AWAM所列出一些当今社会的看法：

1.  误解：只有年轻，漂亮的女人才会被性侵犯。

事实：对于受害者的年龄有从婴儿到老年。强奸犯为了性侵害他人，年龄是很少考虑的因素。因为强奸犯攻击时似乎是选最脆弱的受害者。因此，当一个强奸犯决定去强奸时，机会才是最重要的因素。

2.  误解：穿着暴露或诱惑男性的女性易惹强奸。

 

事实：强奸犯都会选择被认为脆弱的对象，他们不考虑外观和行为放荡的女性，所以强奸跟女孩的穿着和行为方式是没有关系的。儿童，老妇和女人衣着端庄，或是戴头巾的（马来女性）都有可能是被性侵害的对象。

 

3.  误解：强奸是一种无法控制的欲望行为。大多数强奸是自发行为，强奸者无法控制自己的欲望。

 

事实：强奸并不是因为欲望。绝大多数的强奸案都有计划的，都是有预谋的行为，暴力的激情，而不是一个自发的行为。男性都是可以控制自己的性冲动。绝大多数的强奸犯的动机来自于愤怒和控制他人，而不是两情相悦。

 

4.  误解：大多数女性被性侵害的都是陌生人。

事实：警方的统计数据告诉我们，只有一小部分的强奸案都是陌生人干的。据估计，在80％的情况下，女性都知道强奸犯是谁。在这种情况下，强奸者可能是熟人，朋友，甚至家庭成员。一个强奸犯可以是你身边的任何人。

 

 

5.  误解：大多数强奸案发生在黑暗的小胡同，荒芜的地区，和其他危险的地方。

 

事实：据警方统计，69％的强奸案发生在房屋和建筑物。此统计证明女性也可能会在其他的地方被强奸。晚上时，女生应该小心安静的街道或光线暗淡的地方。

 

6.  误解：丈夫是不可能性侵犯他的妻子。

 

事实：无论是已婚或者未婚的女性，如果一个女性在不同意的情况下发生性关系，她就是被性侵犯的。一些国家的法律是可以对付在婚姻中的强奸。这是因为许多妇女都遭受过家庭暴力，也经历过某种形式的性虐待。而在马来西亚，法律是可以对付性伤害妻子的男性。

 

7.  误解：没有一个女人能在她的意愿下被性侵犯的。如果她真的想阻止被强奸，她是可以办得到。

 

事实：大多数强奸案都涉及暴力和武力威胁。许多受害者没办法还手，都是因为恐惧和害怕反击时会导致更大的伤害。由于强奸是一种潜在威胁生命的犯罪，受害者即使要反击还是必须有一个适当的机会。

 

8.  误解: 她没有尖叫或反击，所以那并不是强奸

事实：当女性受到性侵害时会遇到种种的创伤。比如惊吓、不敢反抗。要想到任何的顽强反抗行为都会造成受害者面对暴力的对待，甚至有生命危险的可能性。即使受害者没有尖叫或反击，受害者还是可能被强迫发生性关系。

 

9.  误解：接吻或拥抱，可能会导致强奸

 

事实：接吻或爱抚是不等于同意性行为。你能够在任何时候改变你的想法。你有权利向性爱说“不”，即使你曾经与对方进行过性爱。

 

 

摘自: Women's Centre for Change(WCC) and Awam

Myth vs Reality

Women's Centre for Change (WCC) showed that there are many erroneous perceptions in the community about rape. These generally tend to minimize the gravity of the problem, provide society with a false sense of security, encourage victim-blaming and excuse the perpetrator. These existing perceptions allow perpetrators to get away with the crime and at the same time discourage victims from lodging reports or seeking help. It is necessary to dispel myths so that victims can be treated with respect and dignity when they seek the help they need. The following is a list of some common perceptions which provided by Women's Centre for Change （WCC）and  AWAM.

1.      Myth: Only young, pretty women are sexually assaulted.

Reality: The age of rape victims range from infancy to old age. Their appearance is seldom a consideration. Rapists choose to attack victims who seem most vulnerable. Opportunity is the most important factor determining when a rapist will rape.

2.      Myth: Girls who wear sexy clothes or flirt with men provoke rape.

Reality: Rape is not related to the way a girl dresses or the way she acts. This is a myth that excuses the rapist’s behavior by blaming the victim. Rapists choose their victims for their vulnerability and accessibility, without regard to physical appearance or behavior. Children, elderly women, and women who dress modestly or fully-clothed from head to toe (wearing head scarves) have been raped.

3.      Myth: Rape is an uncontrollable act of lust. Most rapes are spontaneous acts of passion where the assailant cannot control himself.

Reality: The vast majority of all rapes are planned. Rape is not about lust. Rape is a premeditated act of violence and not a spontaneous act of passion. Men can control their sexual impulses. The vast majority of rapists are motivated by power, anger and control, not sexual gratification.

4.      Myth: Most women are raped by strangers.

Reality: Based on the statistics of police, it shows us that only a small percentage of rapes are committed by strangers. It is estimated that in 80% of the cases, the woman knows the rapist. In those cases, the rapist is an acquaintance, friend, or even family member. A rapist can be anyone.

5.      Myth: Most rapes happen in dark alleys, deserted areas, and other dangerous places.

Reality: According to police statistics, 69% of rapes happened in homes and buildings. It showed that women are also at risk of being raped in other places.Women should be careful at night, on quiet streets, or in poorly lit areas.

 

6.      Myth: It is impossible for a husband to sexually assault his wife.

Reality: Regardless of the marital or social relationship, if a woman does not consent to sexual activity she is being sexually assaulted. Some countries have laws against rape in a marriage. Many women who suffer from domestic violence have experienced some form of sexual abuse within their marriage. In Malaysia, it is against the law for a man to hurt his wife sexually.

7.      Myth: No woman can be raped against her will. A person can prevent rape if she really wanted to.

Reality: Most rapes involve physical force and/or threats of force. Many victims do not fight back due to fear, shock, or the perception that fighting back will lead to greater harm. Because rape is a potentially life-threatening crime, whatever the rape victim does to survive the assault is an appropriate action.

8.      Myth ： She didn't scream or fight back, so it wasn't rape

Reality: Women face the trauma of rape in many ways. Some freeze, and are too afraid to struggle. The perpetrator may threaten to kill her if she puts up a fight. In other situations women may be coerced into having sex. The bottom line is, if sex is forced without a woman’s consent, rape has occurred, regardless of how the woman re-acts during the crime itself.

9.      Myth : Kissing or hugging can lead to rape

Reality: Consent to kissing or foreplay is NOT consent to sex! You have the right to change your mind at any time. You have the right to say no, even if you’ve had sex with that person before.

 

Source: Women's Centre for Change(WCC) and AWAM